I get a lot of really nice and encouraging comments on this blog, it's lovely to see that people out there other than my friends and family take the time to read about my life! But yesterday I had a lovely email sent to me from a lady called Jane in Canada.
So today I'm going to post her email and my reply, as he email put a smile on my face and I want to share.
I’m not sure if you like to mix work and your blog, but I have been reading your blog and wanted to contact you. Ain’t the Internet wonderful?! Interesting line of work, by the way!
I am the mother of two daughters, born via IVF and ICSI. They are now 8 and 5. By one of those weird routes where you read a newspaper article online, click into something else and end up somewhere completely different, I ended up on Fertility Friends, tho my days of going through that are over. I was transfixed, for some reason – reminding myself how lucky I am perhaps. It brought it all back.
By a further twist of the mouse and the ENTER button, I ended up on your blog. Can I just say it is a testament to your amazing strength. You have written so movingly of your bitter trials, but without self-pity and with such a degree of patience and courage – and humour! - that I am speechless. Without doubt you have the fortitude to get to the end of your long road with your husband and one day soon have your child with you, where he or she belongs. You will never forget the other little guys, especially your beloved son, I know that.
I emigrated to Canada three years ago and am enjoying my new life. The dark days of the mid 1990s are over, tho I must say parenting growing kids is one of the most difficult jobs I’ve ever done – and the best!
I really just wanted to wish you both well. I’m rooting for you – a stranger thousands of miles away. You go, girl!
Loads of best wishes – and fingers crossed for the next chapter.
PS I wish FF had been around when I was walking the infertility road. Talking, consoling, comparing, communicating, all of these make such a difference to the feeling that you are out there all alone, silenced by your feeling of being on a different planet. A bit of earthy good humour doesn’t go amiss either – and FF seems to provide all of that and more.
and my reply:
What a lovely email! Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words.
It is nice to see that people from all over the world are reading my blog, which I started so my family and friends could keep up (without hundreds of phone calls each week to catch up!) and it has just kept going, I will probably keep it going now until after any babies I have are born! It would be a great way to chart their development.
FF is a wonderful place, filled with lots of other women who share the same problems - it has helped me so much over the last year and I've made many new friends whom I now see regularly for coffee!
It's also good to see that there are women who are successful with IVF, I am one of them but as yet my body keeps letting me down.
I don't do self pity, sometime in my darkest hours there is some, but mostly you have to get back on the horse and keep going until you get what you want.
Thank you again for taking the time to write to me, you have made me smile!